Lack of Parental Guidance Is Mainly Responsible for Children Being Violent and Aggressive in School

Parents become increasingly busy with their job and don’t spend enough time with their children. They don’t have time to talk to them, listen to them, know their problems and simply don’t know their children enough. As a result children don’t get enough attention they need and deserve so they turn to anti-social behaviour in hope it will eventually alarm the parents and remind them of their existence after being notified by the teachers, even if the kids have to deal with negative consequences afterwards.

No child starts out as a cruel, violent person. NBC says that studies show it is only when they are abused in horrific ways, or they have to witness the ongoing abuse of others, that they learn to act this way. This has been proven time and time again through the testing of violent children who ended up as repeat offenders in the criminal justice system. The vast majority of them all had at least one family member or parent who had abused them in some way. It wasn’t necessarily physical abuse though. An authoritarian type of parenting, which some people refer to as a “dictatorship style,” affected them too because of the emotional damage that it did. And besides this, they didn’t learn to make good decisions or gain control over their actions because their parents were so critical of everything that they did.

Some parents do the exact opposite of being abusive to their children. Instead of harsh punishments, beatings, and neglect, they give no consequences for their bad behavior at all. This is problematic because children both need and want their parents to set limitations for them through an authoritative parenting style. If their parents don’t, they will act out in ways that are meant to get their attention. Coddling children will not prevent violence because it doesn’t teach them that they need to act respectfully and kindly to those around them. If anything, it encourages more violence because the child is always allowed to get away with cruelty.

Sometimes, children learn violence through television shows, video games, and other types of media. They might also see it at school. Since this teaches that violence is acceptable, it is up to parents to try to limit how much exposure that their kids have to all of this.

Neglectful parenting often has an even greater impact on the violent tendencies of children than physical abuse does. Neglect can be characterized by withholding love and affection, food, and a clean, healthy environment from the child. This usually happens in households where one or more of the parents have some type of mental illness or addiction to drugs and alcohol. The children who are raised with neglectful parents have no idea how to function in a healthy environment. They are hungry, dirty, and ill from untreated health problems. And this impacts them on a deep psychological level that causes them to lash out at others through violence.