Dr Alfred Kinsey reported that 37% of men had experienced sex with other men to the point of orgasm and that half had experienced mental attraction or arousal towards other men. Anthropologists have found tribes where all young men engage in a homosexual relationship for a certain period of time before becoming heterosexual again. Boys in boarding school and men in prison turn gay for a while. All this evidence points to the fact that sexuality is fluid; that most of us could be attracted to members of the same sex and that the only things which stop us are cultural conditioning, opportunity or need.

We tend to assume that gay people are the ones who sleep with members of their own sex exclusively. We make no account for people who fantasise about gay sex, have one gay experience, or who enter into a short-term relationship with a member of the same sex. If we broaden the definition to include them then we can see that a great many people, maybe even most, flirt with the idea of same-sex sex even if they subsequently return to sleeping with the opposite sex.

Anyone who has had a dog will recognise its lack of shame in mounting other dogs. Homosexual behaviour has been identified in all species where people have bothered to look. The only animal where there seems to be a problem with this is mankind. We feel the need to label people one way or another when the truth is such labels are constricting and inaccurate.

This statement give augurs the debate as to whether being gay is a social construct or someone innate. I personally believe that it is predominantly a natural thing, which is part of our DNA (research done into the matter and glands etc in the brain support this). However, I believe adolescence is a part of any young person's life to which anything can have a massive influence. Research has shown that children with gay or bi-sexual parents have a higher percentage of being gay or bi-sexual. However, whether this be due to the fact that they feel more free to explore their sexual prowace is another argument.

It may be that we live in a predominantly staright society and that we all have the capacity to be bisexual, however the society we live in has shaped our sexuality....

I personally believe that being gay is unchanging. You are what you are, and you have no choice in the matter. Same as the colour of your skin or your gender.