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MEN ARE A HINDRANCE IN THE LABOUR WARD
Fathers to be do not make the best birthing partners and often hinder the progress of labour, distract their partner and are often only present because they think it is the 'right' thing to do.
Men are a hindrance in the labour ward
Yes, because... Men feel under pressure to be at the birth of their child
Not all men want to be present during labour but feel pressured to do so. They often feel helpless, clumsy and useless in a delivery ward. Is it time to choose a birthing partner based on their ability to help the mother to be, i.e. experienced mother, doula etc and at least allow both men and women the freedom to admit that actually a male partner may not be the best birthing partner.
This may be true. But the question is not being addressed properly. The "question" is "Men are a hindrance in the Labour Ward."
Whilst the arguments against men being present at the time of birth (feeling pressured, useless, it being damaging to the relationship of the couple etc.) are all decent, they fail to answer the question.
Men are only a hindrance in the Labour Ward if their wives feel that they are a hindrance. It is the woman who gives birth, not the man nor the staff, and so it is solely her decision. If she wants him there then he should be forced to stay (he doesn't have to look at her vagina for, if he did, he should be excused of all wrong-doing if he left).
What makes you so sure that men don't want to be there and simply feel obliged? Most men who love their wives will want to be there.
It is the woman's decision as to whether "men are a hindrance in the Labour Ward".
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Men are a hindrance in the labour ward
Yes, because... Being at the birth may affect the relationship
Let’s be honest, really honest. Some of us, men and women are squeamish. And births are usually bloody, squelchy affairs with possible forceps, venthouse, episotomies, 1st, 2nd, 3rd degree vaginal tears. And for the woman and her spouse this can be a fairly traumatic affair which could have an affect on the couple’s physical and emotional relationship afterwards.
We agree that being present at the moment of his child's birth would affect the couple's relationship.
But the proposition seem to believe for some reason that it will impact it for the worse.
For one, the mother would probably appreciate her husband being with her with welcome their child into the world, in addition to providing emotional and physical support in anyway.
Such a joyous shared experience should only make the couple grow closer, not further.
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Men are a hindrance in the labour ward
Yes, because... We are made to feel the father to be 'SHOULD' be present at the birth.
Forty years ago men were not allowed in the labour ward. Now people are aghast when a man admits he was not at the birth of his child. Of course there are men who want to be there but what about the men who don’t? Are they judged too harshly? I believe so.
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08 Jan 2010
Point 1. Men feel under pressure to be at the birth of their child
Not all men want to be present during labour but feel pressured to do so. They often feel helpless, clumsy and useless in a delivery ward. Is it time to choose a birthing partner based on their ability to help the mother to be, i.e. experienced mother, doula etc and at least allow both men and women the freedom to admit that actually a male partner may not be the best birthing partner.
This may be true. But the question is not being addressed properly. The "question" is "Men are a hindrance in the Labour Ward."
Whilst the arguments against men being present at the time of birth (feeling pressured, useless, it being damaging to the relationship of the couple etc.) are all decent, they fail to answer the question.
Men are only a hindrance in the Labour Ward if their wives feel that they are a hindrance. It is the woman who gives birth, not the man nor the staff, and so it is solely her decision. If she wants him there then he should be forced to stay (he doesn't have to look at her vagina for, if he did, he should be excused of all wrong-doing if he left).
What makes you so sure that men don't want to be there and simply feel obliged? Most men who love their wives will want to be there.
It is the woman's decision as to whether "men are a hindrance in the Labour Ward".
Point 2. Being at the birth may affect the relationship
Let’s be honest, really honest. Some of us, men and women are squeamish. And births are usually bloody, squelchy affairs with possible forceps, venthouse, episotomies, 1st, 2nd, 3rd degree vaginal tears. And for the woman and her spouse this can be a fairly traumatic affair which could have an affect on the couple’s physical and emotional relationship afterwards.
A good point.
Point 3. We are made to feel the father to be 'SHOULD' be present at the birth.
Forty years ago men were not allowed in the labour ward. Now people are aghast when a man admits he was not at the birth of his child. Of course there are men who want to be there but what about the men who don’t? Are they judged too harshly? I believe so.